Have you ever had a relationship that leaves you feeling emotionally drained?
Those relationships where you’re always the one giving but you’re never receiving.? These people are called emotional vampires and they suck.
Different types of emotional vampires:
1) Naive Vampires
The first type of Vampire is the person who is clueless to other people’s feelings. Some people are just naieve and they don’t understand how their actions affect other people. It’s easy to get caught up with this type because it’s “not their fault”.
It’s important to communicate how you feel so they do understand how they’re hurting you. If they continue to treat you poorly, you need to consider what that relationship brings to you and if it’s honestly worth keeping or if they’re sucking the life out of you.
2) Egotistical vampires
The next type is the egotistical emotional vampire. This life-sucker believes everything is about them. These people can tend to mow you over, especially if you’re a soft spoken or giving person. They can seem like the naive vampire in the fact that they “just don’t know” when in reality they don’t care because it’s all about them. Again, it’s important to communicate with these emotional vampires because you need to preserve your own emotions.
3) The helpful vampire
One of the other types of emotional vampires is the helper. They want you to lose weight to “be healthy” or say things like “that outfit isn’t flattering”. They’re the over-helpers in your life who are almost too opinionated. These people don’t meant to, but they can be almost the most draining. Almost more so than the naive emotional vampire because they mean well so it’s hard to realize that they are in fact being harmful.
How to prevent your emotions from being sucked away.
The number one thing I have been focused on lately is self-love. I involve this not only in my own life, but I am teaching other women how important it is. Once we start to love ourselves we notice what things start to drain us.
These draining things can be activities, but more often than not the main source is emotional vampires. There are many other types of emotional vampires than the ones I listed. Those are the three that I view as the most important, but once you start realizing who these vampires are in your life you will come up with more on your own.
Recognizing when we are drained doesn’t always mean cutting that person out of our life indefinetly. Taking short breaks or “time-outs” from someone is completely acceptable. As long as you’re revisiting the situation it is healthy.
Another thing I have been practicing is shielding. This is especially important for empaths as people can unknowingly drain your energy without even realizing it. When you start to feel the anxiety that comes with emotional vampires imagine surrounding yourself in a golden egg. Start with a layer closest to you and slowly build layers on top of that.
If that method doesn’t work, imagine pulling a blanket of white light up over your feet and slowly up over your head. Let the blanket cover you in comfort. Take a few deep cleansing breaths and BE PATIENT with yourself. Shielding can take some work so don’t get discouraged if you don’t get it right away.
The most import thing to remember out of all of this is that everyone is going thru their own life struggle relatively. While it’s important to notice them for our own self preservation, it is never our job to judge anyone. It’s also important to remember that we can bring people up to our level. Instead of stooping to someone else’s level by judging them or telling them how their actions are wrong, we should lift them up. Show them through light and love how to be a better person. Not everyone get’s it at first. Some people don’t get it at all, but you will know you are doing the best you can.
I 100% believe that love conquers most things. I have seen this evidence time and time again in my own life. Every single one of you have this capability and so much more. You reading this post is evidence enough of that. Go with light and love and spread your blanket of white light protection as far as you can!!
My name is Ashley Rose (a.Rose). I have made it my life goal to teach women how to bring out their inner child, become in tune with the feminine goddess they are, and learn to love themselves unconditionally. I teach about holistic tools and mindset to assist on that beautiful journey. For any questions or comments email me at: email@example.com